Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Moving on in A Twenty Boy Summer
In the book, A Twenty Boy Summer , by Sarah Ockler, Anna has been best friends with Frankie for years. Anna has always had a crush on Frankie's older brother, Matt. On her birthday, her longtime wish of kissing Matt comes true. This blossoms into a relationship where Matt and Anna meet late at night, behind the back of Frankie. One day the three of them are in a car and get hit head-on by a truck. Frankie and Anna are fine but Matt is not. He passes away and Anna spends the next year dealing with her loss. She wants to move on, but does not want to lose the memories she has of Matt. How would you deal with a loss like that?
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I would just get over it because who would really try to deal with somebodys loss for a year? Eventually i would would just have to tough it out and deal with it.
If i had to deal with a loss like that it would take me a while to get over. This is because if I was in this situation, I would never want my new boyfriend who I've wanted to be with for years. It's kind of like saying "you have 1 week to live" or "a week to be with this person". When I was little, my grandpa passed away shortly after my brothers second birthday. It took time for my dad and I to deal with the fact that he was gone. My dad was upset because it was his dad & I was upset because i only got to spend 5 years with my grandpa, but with my other grandpa & grandma, they're still alive. So it was a little unfair to me that his time had to be then, when who knows how long it will be until my other grandparents pass away. So if i had to deal with a loss like this one in the story, it would really take some time.
I would probably keep the memories i had of Matt, but put them aside. I would keep the pictures I had of him in a draw or a box, and look at them only when I really needed to. This would help me to remember him, but also move on with the loss. I wouldn't let it effect me that much after a week or two, and just focus more on school or sports to help keep my mind off of it.
I would move on n forget about matt and stay freinds with franky
I would try not to get down on myself and spent the year doing something I enjoy with or without my family like playing video games or go to a different state with family. Also I would try to see a counselor.
Even though most people said that they would get over it, I don't think i ever would. I mean i wouldn't spend every minute in my room crying but the pain and grief would stay with me. It would be extremely hard for me to get over it. I would, as joey said, try to get my mind off it after the initial emotions have leff like doing things with my family, and maybe see a counselor. :)
i would try to forget all the bad things and focus on the good
The way i would deal with a loss like that is to try and move on about matt. It might take some time but i would try my best to get over it. Besides Anna still has Frankie.
(Regarding Tkuch) I don't know if youo've dealt with something like that or not, and i have not, but I think that if something like that happened I would never be able to get over it. I would be thinking, "What if I sat in that seat or got in the seat before him? Would he be alive? Would I be dead?" I think I would keep thinking how he had no reason more to die than me.
Also, I haven't read this book... but I think maybe it would be cooler if Frankie died. Than it would be a whole new horrible feeling, not only would Anna feel sorrow and sadness, she would also feel guilt. In that way, she would have learned the importance of telling the truth to people that truly matter.
I disagree with Tkuch, I mean, if you deal with problems that way i completely understand and respect your way of dealing with loss, but I am different. I personally would be extremely crushed and scarred for a really really really long time. i guess I would try to think about all the good times I had with Matt, because only time can heal a broken heart.
I would be so sad for the first year and finnaly come clean about the relation ship to Frankie he could probly help her move on and i agree with kathleen it would take some time but she still has frankie
If I had to deal with a loss, like Anna Had to do with Matt, i think it would be extremly difficult. Losing someone that you were really close with is not an easy thing to cope with. I would keep all the memories that we had together in my mind, but i would try to push them to the back, where i wouldnt always be thinking about them. It would take a long time to get over him , but i would.
i loved this book but she was over thinking everything. She always thought about what he was saying and she really needs to move on. He's dead. But obviously she wasn't as concerned as she wanted everybody to think because she still hooked up with Sam and then felt guilty AFTER she did it. So ethier she doesn't have common sense or she didn't REALLY care what matt thought after he was gone.
This sounds like a really good book i would like to read this. if i had to with a loss lioke this im not sure how i would deal because if it is just a crush its diffrent but if was love i would probablly fall apart.
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